Sunday, March 25, 2012

Dear Michaela

I am too sick to write much today, Michaela.  Just a cough and chest congestion, and I have lost my voice altogether, but I'm very sleepy. But I just wanted to stop by and let you know that I am still thinking about you, every day, whether I am writing it down or not. In fact, being sick myself just makes me think about you, and when you are sick, and who takes care of you.

Love you forever, baby girl.
mom

43 comments:

  1. A speedy recovery to you Sharon :)

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  2. Just a random thought. But is there anyway they can track down the car that took Michaela? Even if that car is in a car dump there has to be records or something? If they found the car they could find who owned it?

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  3. This blog could not, for many reasons, contain a record of all that has been done in this investigation. But of course from the first day everything was done that could have been done to identify that car.

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  4. There are so many holes and loose ends in this story. It's not fair. I as well as many others come her daily to see if she has been found or anything like that. That dumb old woman could have been the key I wanna strangle her! Everyone wants Michaela found its been too long. But I know you know this.

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  5. hi Sharon this whole story makes me upset, thinking what would happen if I never knew what happened to my children for 23 years. last year my son was kidnapped when he rode his bike home from school, and was missing for 7 weeks. he eventually came home when a neighbor of the kidnapper recognized him and called the police, and hes now safe, and those ******* are now in jail. I hope u find answers soon!

    from binghamton ny, Thomas <3

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    1. Oh Thomas I remembered this story omg i live in Conklin!! I love how after Nick was found that you started helping people like Sharon! My friend Hailey actually forwarded that message to me about Michaela that you sent. Wow and Sharon I'm so sorry about your daughter I wish I could help you :( accept an e-hug from me and Thomas <3

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  6. Thomas I'm glad your son was found and is home safe, and thank goodness for that neighbor. May I ask your son's name?

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  7. my sons name is nicholas (nick). you probably wouldn't be able to find much on him if you look it up online I dont really like to talk about it that much a lot happened but yeah look up Nicholas brian cole. oh and I would also like to say I think Phillip and nancy garrido have a part in michaelas case. think about it. similar description, same van used, and theyve lied about a lot of things. and I actually lived near the garridos before I moved, and he seemed like he was hiding something big by the way he acted. and now but the only thing is, Jaycee probably would've given up who the girls were and even IF there were other girls living in the backyard. im sorry, but it's hard to say.

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  8. The lady who saw him drive off with her aggravates me. BUT so does the fact that he drove like a lunatic and No one else got a description, license plate, or anything else!
    I wish the news would do re enactments on this case, and show them every year so Maybe someone can jog a memory!

    I hope you feel better Sharon, And I hope Michaela is found this year!

    ~ Rod

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  9. I googled his name, but didn't find anything. It is good he is home safe anyway.

    The Garridos have been eliminated in Michaela's case. Thorough searches have been done, the Garridos have been questioned and they have each taken lie detector tests. We do have better suspects. They just don't get their names in the news.

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  10. Re-enactments were done both by Unsolved Mysteries and America's Most Wanted. I wasn't really sure how helpful they were. I think it kind of puts certain things in people's heads which may or may not be accurate. I know that they had this little tiny girl with long blonde hair in a ponytail playing Michaela. Her mom had called someone and told them that everyone kept saying how much her daughter looked like Michaela, but they were actually exactly opposite types. Michaela was very tall for her age, and her hair was pretty short. And I don't even know about all the rest of the details. But you know the case was exhaustively covered back 23 years ago and pretty consistently for all of the time since then, and anything that didn't shake out of the bushes isn't going to be apparently.

    On the other hand, we had 15,000 leads in the first year alone, so we got tons of information. In some ways that made the case more difficult because the investigators said that they had to "look for a reason to discount" each lead so that they could go on to the next one, because they were so overwhelmed. Part of what goes on now is to sift through all those early leads to look to see if there is anything more that could have been done with it.

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  11. yeah I deleted his please help bring nick home page and everything else my friends helped me with. it was awful, and I can't even picture what it would be like to say I love you to my kid, and they say I love you too back, and never see them again to this day. and I actually sent a message on my phone to all my 300 contacts about michaela because I'm desperate to help you but no one knows anything. well just don't stop beleiving. and if you want the story his kidnappers used him to take porn pictures of him to satisfy him and his friends. there were many flyers and he was only just across town from me. I have to go now so I'll talk to u later bye :)

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  12. Sorry, Thomas. Actually I was hoping to read one of those happy homecoming news stories that are so rare among missing kids.

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  13. Hello Sharon.

    I cannot imagine what you go through everyday. I wish I could help but there's not much I can do. It's too bad they don't have like satellite imagining from when Michaela was taken. Something anything. It is just so strange she practically vanishes without a trace. Sorry just ranting and thinking about her. I am due next week and I am having a girl so I for some reason think about this case alot.

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  14. well I can tell u what happened ok it was June 20th 2011 just a week before my 29th birthday and actually one day before his 13th and so I was at home with my 6 year old son and I was out in our living room and I was doing test prep and he was watching wizards of waverly place and my phone rang. it was an area police officer saying that there was a boy claiming to be nick there and so I was crying tears of joy, and my son was so excited and when we got there my wife wasnt there yet and he screamed "DAD"! and he ran over and hugged me and he said tht he didnt hate me and he never meant to say anything he said before because the last words he said was I hate you, and a couple other words I should probably not say, because I didnt let him go to a known drug dealers house. so I found out everything that happened, his kidnappers went to prison for 50 years and nick remembered everyone in our family.

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  15. Hello Sharon, I wish there was something more we all could do. There are a lot of cases out there that are not that famous. To tell you the truth, I can`t stand the fact that right now the whole world is only focusing on Madeline McCann, I think the should focus on her the way the world is doing so, BUT at the same time the world should also focus on a LOT of other cases that are just as important and urgent as Madeline McCann.

    I live in Mexico and there is this little girl I cant get out of my thoughts and prayers, her name is Lisset Soto Salinas, she was almost 9 years old and she was abducted on her way home from school. She still got a chance to call her mom from her cell phone to tell her she was scared because she was being followed by a car. The mother dashed out of the house but by then little Lisset was nowhere to be seen. Everything indicates she could be caught in a human trafficking ring. This happened in October 2010.

    The other case is Yeremi Vargas from spain. He was 8 years old and he was playing outside his house with 2 other cousins his age, when they were called in for supper everyone got in the house but Yeremi, he hasnt been found since, (this happened on March of 2007).

    This cases remind me of Michaelas, both stranger abductions, no witnesses, no clues, just vanished. I do the only thing I can do, pass their pictures through e mails, and on facebook. You can google their names and their stories are also on youtube, and like them there are hundreds of other stories.
    So why does the world only focus on Madeline McCann???

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  16. These are my personal thoughts on the woman who saw the person drive off. In hindsight nowing what everyone knows NOW or AFTER the fact. It is easy to play the blame game, judge and point fingers and say had she came forward sooner or had she done this or that. Sharon please forgive my bluntness. I do not been to sound rude or disrespectful to you or your readers. Yes it would have been helpful had the woman called the police that very day and given them the tag number. Truth is who is to say they won't have found the car abanonded, cleaned and had previously reported stolen and nothing more. I can not count the number of times at the age of 86 I have personally seen a car drive crazy out of a parking lot or down the street that had the words help me written on the trunk, weave in and out of traffic some 'young' person sticking out of a passanger window out of a car screaming at the top of there lungs or yelling let me go I want to be free. I have witnessness three gas stations being robbed before, during or after the fact as well as one bank. The last 20 years I have lived alone in a house in the country. If someone broke into my home in the middle of the night raped and murdered me. Nobody put GOD would hear my screams in the night! Before sitting back judging and pointing fingers at this woman who saw this person drive off. Put your selves in her shoes. Or think about it if she were your mother, your sister or your Aunt. She had no idea at the time what she was witnessing even after the fact. Don't so easily pass judgment on her. You don't know her, her story or what made her do what she did. It is NOT our place to judge her or speak so ill of her. Only her and GOD knows what hell she has had to live with since that day happened. That is punishment enough. Leave the poor woman alone. Treat the woman you would want yourself or a member of your own family treated under the circumstances.

    Sharon,

    My husband and I divorced many years ago. My exhusband got visitation. It was supervised then he caught time alone and visits with them at his new apt. Everything went as planned for two years. He got them every other holiday,one week during the spring and three weeks during the summer. During the third summer my husband took the kids and left the country. Granted with my kids it was parent kidnapping not stranger. My husband did things to my daugher. This is why we divorced. His live in girlfriend at the time before he disappeared had info. She never came forward with for 15 years! As angry as I was she also had small children and at the time she got involved with my exhusband she literally had no idea what he had done to my daughter. As angry as I was I could understand her fear of what he might do to her or her kids if she came forward. From one mother to another. I am sorry for your loss and what you have had to endore. I pray your family finds peace one day and all your questions to this mystery are solved.

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  17. Georgia, that lady came TO ME when she saw someone in the grocery store who looked like the kidnapper, and told me she was afraid he might have recognized her. And let me tell you, I was never anything but absolutely nice to her, and this was so long ago that I am 99.999 percent positive that she is not reading this right now. I am sure I let that old woman go to her grave in peace ... which is more than she did for my daughter, and more than she did for me, and perhaps more than she did for others who may have been victims of this man in the years since!

    But she told me that when she watched the news that evening, she knew exactly what it was she had witnessed. It wasn't "help me" written in dirt. She had seen my daughter being kidnapped, and she KNEW that's what she had seen, and she knew that right at that minute that little girl was suffering unimaginably. Let's just take this back to the last post and the descriptions of what Victoria Stafford suffered. It's okay for someone to sit in their house with information that might save that child and not say anything? It wasn't even rational for her to be afraid. I mean, does she think that while he was driving erratically, having kidnapped a child, that he was writing down her license plate number, and that he would know that she had called and reported his license plate number?

    It sounds to me, Georgia, as though you have not thought about the real subject here, the real honest to God horror that Michaela experienced of which I cannot even begin to speak. As bad as being molested by a family member may be, that doesn't even begin to touch on what Michaela likely had to endure.

    It is NOT okay. There is no excuse. I do understand that woman. I do understand how she felt and why she did what she did, and it is just simply NOT okay that she sat in her comfortable home watching television and didn't do anything to help my daughter, to help all the children who might ever be victims of this man. You say maybe if she'd given up the license plate number it wouldn't have made any difference. But MAYBE if she'd done that Michaela would have come home. Maybe she would have had a chance to go to grow up. I'm sure she would have become involved in theater, performing in plays. She would have gone to dances, graduated from high school, gone to college, traveled, fallen in love, had a wedding, had children of her own. Maybe, just maybe.

    But as it is she was left to a CERTAINTY of pain and grief and horror.

    And that cannot be justified.

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  18. Sharon,
    I apologize if you felt I was attacking you or putting you down in some way. The first part of my comment was directed more so to your readers than you personally. I am so sorry you took it so personally. That was NOT my intention. I am sure YOU were more than kind to her. I was not defending her and whatever she did or did not do. Many times I have see NOT you, but your 'followers' put this woman down. My only thought is since your readers obviously are NOT Michaela's mother and do not know all the ins and outs of whatever is going. Treat this woman the way they might want to be treated under the circumstanaces. They were NOT there, they do NOT know what happen and they do NOT know this woman! Just because the woman doesn't read your blog or might be dead does not make it okay for your readers to throw her under the bridge. I was raised you treat people the way you want to be treated no matter what, all the time. NOT that you treat people the way you want to be treated only when they are looking, then when there back is turned, treat them however you want it doesn't matter because they aren't looking!

    Your right, I do not know what horror your daughter went through. I only know the horror my own children went through of being literally burned alive at the hands of their father after being kidnapped and used for sex by strangers.

    I am not excusing whatever this woman did. Nor am I saying I understand it. My only point I was attempting to make is that not you, but YOUR READERS, who do NOT know all the details, treat this woman the way 'YOU' would want to be treated under the circumstances and reguardless of who reads your blog!

    Again I apologize for offending you. That was NOT my intent!

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  19. I did not feel as though you were attacking me personally, Georgia. I did feel that you had lost sight of exactly what was going on with Michaela, though, because I don't know how anybody could consider that reality and say we had to be understanding of anyone who had information that might help and chose not to come forward with it.

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  20. Sharon ,
    I am yet but a 16 year old girl. I am terribly sorry for your loss and there are not words or emotions to understand what you feel. I was abducted when i was younger , But something that helped me get through what i went through was hope that i could see my mother again. I Knew that my moth wouldnt stop looking for me. The fact she knew where i was made her determined to find me even more. The point of this is i know that it has been 23 years but you shouldnt lose hope or squabble over non-sense. BELIEVE YOUR DAUGHTER IS OUT THERE ; PRAYING FOR YOU TO FIND HER .. BELIEVE BELIEVE BELIEVE. Because without belief or hope to have a better life Michaela has nothing.

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  21. I know you likely thought of this but have you tried just visiting Mexico and wandering around the sex districts? Or drive at night in hopes of seeing her? Another thing I was thinking of are all those prostitutes who are unknown ( sadly the deceased ones) like trying to go over their pictures and stuff. They have all there photos on record and ages even in California or even Vancouver.

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    1. The lead was to the UAE, not Mexico. I'm sure there are those areas in every town in every country in the world, and if there was a lead to a particular place I might do that. As it is, the world is to big to know where to look.

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  22. wait r u saying michaela was found!

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  23. Hello Georgia, sorry to butt in, but I do want to respond as a reador of Sharon´s blog. I for one do not know Sharon nor her family personally, but I have been following Sharons blog for almost a year now, and it is because I want to know if there is some sort of update with Michaela. I honestly feel for Sharon and I feel genuinely awful of what happened to Michaela. I do not know all the facts like you say, but when I recently read about this witness I felt really angry! And like I said before, on another comment, we as adults HAVE to be a voice for the children, and to me, the choice this lady chose to make was a very cowardly one. I do not know the ladies story, nor anything about her, but she could have quietly gone to the police and have asked to keep her identity a secret.
    I have two small children and if anything happened to my Gael or my Angelica and then I found out there was a witness who chose not to help them, I am sorry but I do not think I could have been nice to this person!
    Bottomline here, cause everything got way off the track like Sharon said, all I have to say is that Sharon has a lot of loyal readers who genuinely care about Michaela. Who are praying and asking for God to give Sharon some answers, and we are not people who come into this blog attacking people and using really foul language, if you read the blog carefully you will see that.
    But we are very upset at the CHOICE this lady made!
    Thats all.

    By the way, Sharon I hope you feel better and I keep praying for
    you and your lovely daughter!

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    1. Thank you so much, Angelica. I am still sick, actually, but back to work anyway.

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  24. And thank you all for keeping this blog going even when I'm feeling under the weather!

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  25. Many want her to come home or be found!

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    1. yes we do!!! :D

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    2. No, we want her to come home NOT be found, considering that could mean she's dead. Sharon I personally believe that Michaela will be the next Jaycee Dugard!!!

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  26. In the weeks after she was kidnapped, when every telephone poll in town was covered with flyers, I thought if only she could see how much love was poured out to her that it would bring healing to her heart. Well, the flyers are long gone, but I think she can see it here. I hope she gets a chance to see it.

    Thanks everyone. <3

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  27. Hey Sharon,

    Random observation: I just noticed that the picture of Michaela in the circular frame (in the upper right-hand corner of the web page) is slightly different than the one usually shown of her. It looks like a very sweet picture. I would love to see it in full-size. The photo to accompany your next blog post, perhaps? :-)

    As for the old woman exiting the cemetery, I was actually thinking about that earlier today while reading a Psychology and Law article for school. It was taking about criminal liability for someone who fails to render aid and presented the hypothetical example of a man walking past a drowning person and neglecting to throw them a life-preserver. The man would explain his actions by simply saying that he "just didn't want to get too involved."

    My first thought was that this old woman had done the exact same thing; she walked right past Michaela and neglected to throw her a life-preservor. It is unconscionable. And Georgia, with all due respect, that's not a judgment against the old woman herself. Just the regrettable course of action she chose that day.

    Anyway, Sharon, I wish you a speedy recovery, and join you in your hope that Michaela might one day see the community of love and support that you have created in her name. <3

    -Julia

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  28. Sharon, it is definitely not OK that she did nothing when she saw him driving and wrote his plate number down. For Gods sake, she could have given the police the number anonymously. There are plenty of ways she could have done something. I know from the bottom of my heart that I would lay my life down for ANY ones child. Regardless, of what could possible happen to me. It was selfish and irresponsible not stepping up for a child, not to mention disgusting and heartbreaking.

    PJ in Illinois

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  29. I have Michaela's Flyer on the wall in my office at work. Its positioned so anyone walking by, or into my office will see it.

    Anytime I have to drive down Mission BLVD, and I pass the market and the cemetary I feel sad and angry about all of this. An old boxing trainer named Cus Damato used to tell a story about a hero and a coward. They both feel the same, both are scared, and feeling hopeless. But its what one does that makes them the Hero, and what the other doesnt that makes them the coward. This lady could have been a hero, and its sad that she only saw the other side of the situation.

    I hope your feeling better Sharon, this flu season is a bad one!

    ~ Rod

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  30. Just curious regarding that picture of the girl you thought could have been Michaela but how did they prove it wasn't her. I mean I know that a woman claimed it was her but did they have other pictures from that era that should the same girl? That pic looks alot like her and just cause someone claims it was them doesn't mean it is though.

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  31. I heard from numerous people that it was her. Why would I doubt it?

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  32. Just cause they say it was doesn't mean it is though. Did you get actual proof cause that picture really does look
    Like her. Just sayin.

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  33. I have no reason to believe all those people are lying.

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    1. not to be rude, but do u not know anything about the modern day? ppl will say that to put ur hopes up and they think it's funny. well sharon, I hope that was michaela and she comes home alive and unharmed <3

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    2. Thomas I am not really sure what comment you are replying to there, but I think anonymous was implying that somebody might be lying in order for me to think it's not Michaela. In either case, I am completely satisfied that nobody was lying, and nobody was trying to be mean in any way.

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  34. Yes Sharon that was what I was implying and I wasn't trying to be mean at all. Just sayin people lie all the time. Not to mention I feel she is still alive I mean no body no
    Bones no
    Nothing at all. She's out there has to be.

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