Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Update on investigation

Well, I talked to the investigators today, and got an update on the testing process. The bottom line is that it will take another four to six weeks to get an answer. There were a few snags in the procedure, just had to do with timing of things in the world. It was nobody's fault, and I want to assure you that the Hayward Police Department has been excellent. They have been very caring and respectful, and they are going above and beyond to do the best job possible.

The bone is still in Arizona, and apparently there are just a few procedures before it will be sent on to Virginia. When you get right down to it, it has probably been safer in Arizona over the last few days.

I am okay. The delay is okay. Everything happens in its time, and I still need a little time I think.

But anyway, I guess this means we will be once again gathering on the anniversary of Michaela's kidnapping. Perhaps it will be the last gathering of this sort. Perhaps it won't. But we will be meeting at the market where Michaela was kidnapped, on the date and at the time she was kidnapped. That is November 19th, which is a Monday this year. I know that's inconvenient and many can't come because of it, but it has always been on the day, at the time, at the place, of the kidnapping, and that's how it falls this year. More details later.

Thanks.

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  1. If it turns out to be Michaela, do you intend to visit Shermantine?

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  2. Hope to make it this year, Sharon. Blessings to you - your patience is exemplary! Paul B.

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  3. (private message) Hi Sharon, Why I didn't know this blog existed, I don't know. I've hung on every news report and newspaper article about Michaela since she was taken from you. A friend of mine, Jackie McCort told me about it recently. You are an amazing writer and the way you are able to communicate the depth of your soul grabs me at the core of mine...
    I was Libby's ceramics teacher at Barnard-White (I also had the fortune to see what an amazing, beautiful young lady she's become when she was working at Boulevard Pet Hospital in Castro Valley, where I take my pets. Please hug her and give her my best ~=^) I had the occasion to be in South Hayward recently and stopped by the market. I always look at it when I pass by, but I've never stopped. I brought a maragold with me (cempasuchitl) and asked the workers inside where the place was that Michaela was kidnapped from so I could place the flower there (I love that it's a Mexican market and they honor memorials and leave them in place.) The woman I spoke with inside told me where it was in a way and with an expression, as though it was her own daughter we were speaking about. I left the cempasuchitl, a flower put on ofrendas for Dia de los Muertos, not because I believe she is dead, but because the flower helps souls find their way home. It has always been my hope for Michaela to find her way home in whatever way she can.
    I shared during our Joys and Concerns at church that next Sunday and asked for support for you and Michaela and your family and for the families of all missing children. It was after the service that Paul Davis came up to me and thanked me. I did not know about his connection to you and Michaela.
    I will continue to wrap you in light and prayers for Michaela's safe return.
    Sincerely,
    Mary Ann Davis
    balkandans@yahoo.com

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  4. My prayers are with you always.

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  5. Thanks for the update, can't seem to get Michaela and your family off of my mind lately

    Jen

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  6. If that's not Michaela's bones, this would still be nothing to cheer about. That's the depressing thing about this bone thing. It's a lose-lose situation. Either way, this would still belong to an innocent little girl.

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  7. Michaela is in all of our hearts, will light a candle of her tonight so her path is lit to you.

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  8. Sharon is figuring out that this bone could be Michaela's is it Death Row for you? Meaning your heart on you breath for days until the day you will dread?

    - Tammy

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    1. I don't understand your question, Tammy, but not it is certainly not death row for me. If I had nothing else in life, I have other children who have kept me going for 24 years now, a husband, and exceptionally wonderful friends and associates. It is just a very stressful time.

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    2. Thank you for saying that Sharon. The burden of pain you carry in this life is much more than most people can ever imagine carrying, but indeed you do have much, much to live for. Michaela is a big, wonderful, painful part of your life story, but not your whole story. Please don't ever give in to despair. Although our suffering in this life may appear to be needless, it might not be so. I'm not suggesting that any of this should have happened or had to happen. You and Michaela obviously didn't deserve any of this and it would have been better had it never happened, but maybe it's not all for nothing, on some incomprehensible cosmic level. I hope this didn't come out the wrong way. I'm just trying to say stay strong, stay together. You've come so far. And so has Michaela - somewhere, somehow. I pray that you will get some answers soon, so your heart can wonder a little less.

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  9. I know this isn't relevant to your post, but do you think it would be a good idea to make a website dedicated to finding a missing person who's case went cold? Not saying Michaela's case is cold or anything, but you shining light on your missing daughter gave me a great idea for this one. Although it isn't going to be a blog, but more of a site gathering facts that went out to the public, and using reliable sources.

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    1. Sounds like you are talking about a websleuths type site, since I already have this blog, missingmichaela.com, and a facebook page for Michaela. But although people seem to always want to help in that way, it just isn't appropriate to this case. I have information on the websites where people with actual information can provide it. But the amateur sleuthing is not what we need in this case. I keep trying to stress to people that the investigators have done their jobs, and we have a ton of information.

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    2. Well actually I wanted to make a website for Nyleen Kay Marshall. A case that went cold, but had investigators who did all they could in that case like Michaela, but unfortunately this one went cold.

      I read a thread of her on Websleuth, and one of her cousins was pleased to see that people are not only remembering her, but finding ways to finding her.

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    3. The essential difference between Michaela's cases and most cases is that we had an eyewitness. That gives the police so much more to work with, and that is probably why Michaela's case has not gone cold.

      If you want to start a website for a missing child, I strongly suggest you contact the family and ask them if that's okay. Even though you may consider the case "cold," likely the police still have an open investigation, and it's generally not looked on happily for other people to go collecting information on a missing child case over the internet. But it's really just courtesy to ask the family anyway.

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    4. Anonymous,I agree with Sharon,its a noble idea but I too urge you to check with the family. I have wanted to make a page for Amanda Nikki Campbell,who disappeared in 1991 from Fairfield,CA. But I don't know how to go about it. It seems there's not much info on her out there and her case and namehas been somewhat forgotten. But then again,I don't know a lot of the specifics.

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    5. Thanks Sharon and Anonymous for your suggestions and kind words. I found Nyleen's brother on an Unsolved Mysteries forum, but I'm nervous to ask him.

      The reason I wanted to start that website is because the Nyleen Kay Marshall case is incredibly eerie to me.

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    6. It really is because she could very well be out there,living a life all these years and never know she was missing. I wish you the best of luck.

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    7. Even if she's found, the thing I worry about the most is the emotional pain she may have to go through. Realizing that her life is a lie, and what kind of person the man who raised her was. I hope if she does get found, her friends help her get through all of this. Letting her know that they're not the lies of her life and that they're very well real.

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    8. That is not something you need to worry about, Anonymous. She was not a baby or toddler when she was kidnapped. She was almost ten years old, both wise and intelligent. She would know she was kidnapped. And she wasn't kidnapped by some nice guy to raise as his daughter.

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    9. I'm referring to Nyleen (who was four-years-old at the time of her abduction). Sorry for the mix-up.

      I apologize if this whole anonymous thing is confusing you. I'm the anonymous that wanted to start a web-page for Nyleen.

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    10. Umm okay. It's also helpful to say "Nyleen" in the post when you are talking about her. I see these messages in my e-mail where they are divorced from everything, and then have to hunt them down on the blog to answer them. It's really very cumbersome. And you can also always sign the comment without going into the identification on the blog comments. Thanks.

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  10. I prayed for you and your family including Michaela last Sunday.

    You have probably saved a childs life with your blog because we are all now so aware of the evil out there.

    Stay strong.

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    1. I'm ashamed to say that the families of missing children were not real for me until I had two young children of my own. I had no idea of the pain and suffering that families experienced, and even now I'm sure I can imagine only a tiny fraction of it. I'd like to think that my children will be safer due to the awareness I now have thanks to people like Sharon, but I have to admit that often when I read about abduction cases I'm struck by how easily the same thing could happened to any child. That's the frightening part. Until our children are a certain age we can (try to) keep them in our sight, within arm's reach, but what happens after that? I'm not really sure how to protect my children from all the dangers the world presents, despite all of the information I have access to. I'm sure that Michaela and her friend were old enough and delighted to go to the store on their own that terrible day, and yet something unimaginable happened - in broad daylight when she was not even alone. Who would ever think that such a thing could happen - even today? We can't, and our children can't, live lives governed by fear. But I agree with you - there does appear to be unimaginable "evil" out there. I'm really not sure how to protect my children from that. I've taken to praying - to whom I'm not even sure - for the health and safety of my kids. Life is just so fragile in so many ways.

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    2. Well, I will tell you I have a few tools that at least help save a certain level of sanity for both my kids and myself as they have grown up. The basis for this is the cell phone, which I personally consider to be one of the best child safety devices ever invented.

      But at some point you just have to take a deep breath, step back and set them free. And when you do that, I'll just say it helps to have a basic trust in something bigger in the universe.

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  11. Please God don't let it be Michaela.. don't rob this family of the thing they have been able to hold on to... HOPE.
    I think for those of us that have silently prayed for your family and at least for me keep my eyes open in crownds looking for her we still need hope
    God bless you

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  12. Today I got an email that fter 37 Years, Priscilla Ann Blevins' disappearance was solved using DNA. Then my jaw dropped when I read her body had been held for over 20 years labled as a Jane Doe!! How in the world is that possible in our country? Personally I think that is just unexceptable and such an unjutice to both Priscialla and her family.

    Sharon I hope you and your family have answers soon.

    Marybeth in Maine

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  13. Sharon, as always when the 19th approaches, we'll be hanging ribbons in Michaela's honor. Sending support from the Midwest, and praying for you and yours, Penny

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  14. Sharon, any update on the Americas Most Wanted airing.

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  15. Hi Sharon, I am so very sad and sorry for your pain and longing. You and your daughter obviously have a deep connection that began long before either of you came to our physical earth. The moment your souls reunite, whether in this lifetime or not, will be something so tremendous the Universe will have to brace itself.

    I have been worrying myself sick about abducted children since as long as I've been a mother. How do I know if our good-bye would be our last? I worry about the pain, much like a pregnant woman who has never had children worries about the unknown pain of childbirth. What is the pain like? What if I can't take it? But I won't have any choice...what if I'm not strong enough?

    Your description of your first night in complete agony makes me want to search the streets for Michaela myself. Your passion, determination and hope is both comforting and terrifying. To see in words, the impact of your world as you knew it, crumbled down in mere seconds, terrifies me. What terrifies me even more is that none of this has happened to me. My children are safe tonight, so if I can't even handle just the thought, how on earth could I ever handle it happening? Not that any mother has the luxury of choosing. Reading stories, (one is too many) of tragedy shakes my faith to the core, but reading Michaela's poem (which is unbelievable, what 9-year-old writes like that?) she sounds so much like an "old soul"...insightful, like she knows something else about this life beyond ours.

    Although you struggled to bring her into this world, I am glad you enjoyed her spirit and her light for 10 years (including your pregnancy). Her light is now shining for the rest of the world, always in our thoughts, always in our prayers, hopeful that she, as an adult woman, has become comfortable enough with her soul's purpose to perhaps be a good mother, to go on outings and not feel the need to escape like other long-term victims. Maybe one day soon, her soul will have fulfilled it's current purpose, and she will come home to you. There is no possible way that a mother and her child can stay separated past a single lifetime. That I am sure of. I don't know if you watch TLC's "Long Island Medium", but I find it intriguing and take some comfort in it. You may find some comfort in it as well, for extra assurance that even if Michaela lives out her life not contacting you, or even if she left her earthly body for Heaven that same day so long ago, that you will meet up with her again one day. I hope you have loads of love and support to get you through this coming Monday. Hugs and prayers to you and your entire family. - Shelley in Canada, forever changed by learning about a shining light named Michaela

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    1. Shelley, your message really touched my heart, because I know all about that kind of fear. I think what you are really feeling, though, is empathy. You feel the pain of others so strongly it feels like your own pain. Believe me I know, I do that myself, and there are things I just have to turn away from and not look at because it is too painful. So just hug your kids and know that they are safe. Okay?

      And thank you.

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    2. Anonymous,
      I know the fear you feel. I have felt it since the day my first was born 30 years ago. I asked God that day, that if he were ever going to let one of my children leave this life, please let them be run down by a car in front of me, or such. But please Lord, don't let them be taken in a manor where I do not know where they are or what has happened to them. Just the thought of it terrifies me. If I even think of it I cry. To me there is no more worthy a cause than locating missing children. I try to always stop to look at the missing children posters, hoping others would do the same for my child. My heart breaks for Sharon and all mothers and children who have suffered this horrific
      crime. All three of my children have had childhoods filled with illness. The youngest is autistic. One of the grown ones was taken hostage at gunpoint at 16 years of age, but in the end walked out alive, and then returned from Iraq with P.T.S.D. , so I always kind of felt like maybe those things were Gods answers to my request of him. If so I thank him, because I do not think I would have been of sound mind had I had a child taken. I tell myself I would have tp hold myself together to search for them, but I know myself well. Sharon is so weary right now, but she has 24 reasons to be. I know we will be there when she is too weary.

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  16. I was just wondering if they looked into what kind of car Herzog/Shermantine drove back when Michaela was taken.

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    1. Yes of course they did. But I don't know the answer.

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    2. Honestly, I don't know why they would keep info like this from you. After all, you are her mother. They should tell you whatever you want to know.

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    3. They don't keep it from me. I do not feel a need to know every little detail of every little bit of the investigation, and half of what I'm told I just brush off because it isn't my job and it isn't within my ability to solve this case.

      If this bone turns out to be Michaela then we will know that Herzog kidnapped her. Other than that, we don't even know what kind of car the kidnapper was driving so anything based on that is pure speculation.

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  17. Sharon, I hope and pray like everyone else that the bone does not belong to Michaela. I had a thought though. I read that some personal items had been found in the well with the remains. If the investigators did not find anything that belonged to Michaela maybe that is a good sign. I know I read that she was wearing earrings at the time. Clothing may decay but shoes or jewelry might still be present. I hope this eases your mind some. Wish I could attend on the 19th but I live too far away. I will be thinking of you and your family. (and of course Michaela)

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    1. The earrings she had were very thin plastic material. They probably would have deteriorated before anything else! I don't know that our investigators have been able to do an accounting of what may have been found in the well.

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  18. Is she out there smwhere thinking of u too.keep the faith that she may be looking up at that same bright sky as you.j

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